"I was adding Facebook friends like crazy because I want a good share of readership to this blog. I want to add every single relative I know, every former classmate, coworker and guys I am interested with. I see my Facebook list as a market not as a friends list anymore. I was trying to build a different persona out of my posts. I was trying to impress the whole world when I only wanted to impress someone through my many status."
If there's one book that I least read - it is the bible and if there's one topic that I have nothing much to talk about - it is faith.But I don't think this makes me a lesser person nor a greater person. I am still in the process of getting into these stuff. Yesterday I was walking in the mall and got so taken by the sound of a loud band from a Christian gathering. Yes I am born Catholic but I am a very open minded person. I have joined this group sometime ago not wanting to know which one is best but to check what do they have and what they don't have in comparison.I went inside slowly and sat down. It is very good timing that the introduction of the topic given by the pastor which everyone can relate is social media. He shared about a study of people's behavior about it. How we are connected to a vast information, authority and people is a priceless privilege. But there are two negative things that arise to this connectivity: we have become shallow and lonely.
If there's one book that I least read - it is the bible and if there's one topic that I have nothing much to talk about - it is faith.But I don't think this makes me a lesser person nor a greater person. I am still in the process of getting into these stuff. Yesterday I was walking in the mall and got so taken by the sound of a loud band from a Christian gathering. Yes I am born Catholic but I am a very open minded person. I have joined this group sometime ago not wanting to know which one is best but to check what do they have and what they don't have in comparison.I went inside slowly and sat down. It is very good timing that the introduction of the topic given by the pastor which everyone can relate is social media. He shared about a study of people's behavior about it. How we are connected to a vast information, authority and people is a priceless privilege. But there are two negative things that arise to this connectivity: we have become shallow and lonely.
Why SHALLOW? Some of us are adding people to its Friends list just for the numbers and it is like a gauge for a social status. We follow each other on Twitter in hope to be followed back. Whenever we post or tweet, we check it from time to time sometimes all day if somebody have liked it, commented, retweeted or favorited it. I can totally relate to this. I was adding Facebook friends like crazy because I want a good share of readership to this blog. I want to add every single relative I know, every former classmate, coworker and guys I am interested with. I see my Facebook list as a market not as a friends list anymore. I was trying to build a different persona out of my posts. I was trying to impress the whole world when I only wanted to impress someone through my many status. But it did not happen. I could have built a real good impression that would have last longer at the time he was reaching out to me in person. It is also very ironic that those who interacts with me the most are those whom I have NOT seen for years! There is really a big difference between a communication through a private message or to a chain of comments complete with smileys to a facetime interaction. You hear the voice, you see the face expression and most important you feel the presence.
Why LONELY? Remember the posts and tweets I mentioned? We become of hungry of attention. We feel bad if nobody liked, commented, retweeted or favorited it. We feel underprivileged whenever we see photos ofriends posting their photos of their travel, new gadgets etc. When I reached 2, 000 Facebook friends that when I realized I am destroying the meaning of the word "friend" so I started adding just those whom I met in person at least one. Then I enabled my Subscribers button for my public updates since I own a blog. On Twitter it is different I have to keep following but only those who are worth it.
Up to now I still do the same thing only a bit more careful. I want to leave a part of myself not to share to the whole online world so that there is still a space for somebody who wanna get to know me more and after checking my profiles would have to do that extra mile to know me in person. Just like faith it is still a learning process for me. Let's leave that an empty space for now. We'll get there soon.
Why LONELY? Remember the posts and tweets I mentioned? We become of hungry of attention. We feel bad if nobody liked, commented, retweeted or favorited it. We feel underprivileged whenever we see photos ofriends posting their photos of their travel, new gadgets etc. When I reached 2, 000 Facebook friends that when I realized I am destroying the meaning of the word "friend" so I started adding just those whom I met in person at least one. Then I enabled my Subscribers button for my public updates since I own a blog. On Twitter it is different I have to keep following but only those who are worth it.
Up to now I still do the same thing only a bit more careful. I want to leave a part of myself not to share to the whole online world so that there is still a space for somebody who wanna get to know me more and after checking my profiles would have to do that extra mile to know me in person. Just like faith it is still a learning process for me. Let's leave that an empty space for now. We'll get there soon.
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